They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Meaning what one person finds oh-so-totally attractive, another may find completely unattractive. Well, I guess in a lot of cases, that’s true, because we all have different definitions of beauty. However, there are some things that I think should be considered beautiful. Period. No matter whose eyes we’re talkin’ about.
I realize that as a young adult, I’m more aware of what I find beautiful as well as what I don’t find beautiful–in both the outward and inward sense. There comes a time in life when inner beauty is searched for more than outer beauty is. The YA period is one of those times (or at least it should be). Why?
This is the stage where we need the most connection. No, I’m not talking about WIFI (even if we really do need good wifi–without it…okay, let’s not go there, cuz that’s just depressing). I’m talking about heart-to-heart. This is the period of our lives where we need people who understand us. Not just people who make us look good. We need real friends who’ll fight our battles with us. Not fake ones who don’t even know what battles we face. We need people in our lives who see the beauty in us, just like we see the beauty in them.
Beauty is something we all constantly see, but don’t always recognize. Many times, we don’t. Because not everything we see, we associate with the word beauty.
But in my opinion, there are aesthetics that shouldn’t have to depend on the eye of the beholder. Here are a few:
Face it. “Smart” is the new sexy! So all you nerds, geeks, dorks, smarty-pants’ out there, take a bow! I honestly have no idea why being smart was ever a basis for being bullied. I mean…you’d seriously pick on the kid who’s going to find a cure for cancer? You’d shove the “dork” just because he’s into collectible action figures? OR! *cough* Or you’d tease the girl who liked to read? (Just because you can’t?) I don’t think so. Intelligence is beautiful.
Just a side note…if you were the kid who never did well in school, then I’ll have you know–how well you did in school isn’t the only gauge of intelligence. For all we know, you could be a musical genius! Or a painting prodigy! All you have to do is explore, and find where your intelligence lies.
We live in a world where everyone has the “right” to get mad at the barista if he got your coffee order all wrong. We live in a world where it’s pretty commonplace to see a “commotion” in the parking lot because two people are fighting over a parking spot. People are entitled–they think about what they can get before they give. And when they don’t get what they think they deserve, they flip out.
Kindness doesn’t cost a cent, and yet it gives you a million-dollar make-over.
Confidence–not pride, mind you (because proud people are ew), is becoming more and more rare. When’s the last time someone looked you in the eyes when they spoke? When’s the last time a stranger stomped towards you and said, “You’re so beautiful, you caught my eye from across the field.” (Okay, maybe that’s too far. That’s probably more creepy than it is confident, so…just forget I said that). 😂
Confident people stand out, because they’re the ones not afraid to hear their own voice. They’re the ones who can stand in front of a crowd and act like they’re just with a few close friends. They hold their own, and are at home in their own skin. They’re the real head-turners.
Honesty is beautiful because it’s straight from the heart, if not simply because it’s the “diamond-in-the-desert” kind of rare.
The truth isn’t always attractive (it can hurt a lot), but the act of someone willing to speak honestly, especially when out of love, is.
Being a YA, it’s pretty easy to get caught up in the physical aesthetic. I mean, there’s just so much to keep up with (with all the new shades of lipstick, the fashion trends, and the latest exercise fads and all…). However, I think it’s good for us to remember that at the end of the day…our Mommas were right–it’s what’s inside that counts. Inner beauty is the aesthetic that matters most.
So, dear reader, I just want you to remember one thing today. You’re beautiful…don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You’re gorgeous…you don’t need to change yourself for people to accept you.
(Okay, I just realized…in case you’re a guy, then…you can be gorgeous too! 😉)
The beauty that’s inside of you (of us) doesn’t depend on who’s looking. Whether they think so or not, you are beautiful.
And you’re amazing…